If you missed it on my socials, I’m getting divorced. And since our separation, I’ve been coming to terms with the fact that my soon-to-be-ex-husband was abusive. And a narcissist (I know my therapist is glad I’ve stopped arguing with him about it, because I just didn’t see it). And has done a fucking number on me, to put it mildly.

Your loving response to this news, and the devastating fact that so many can relate to my current experience, has inspired a new venture. Welcome to my diary! Read on to learn more:

Note: This project is members-only, and requires a valid payment method for identity verification purposes*. Membership is only available to those that identify as women or femmes.

What You Can Expect

  • My Journal. Transparency can be freeing, right? That’s what I’m going for. I hope it helps me, and I hope that it helps someone else, too. It’s been tough to write since all this happened, but it’s a talent of mine that I’ve left untapped for the last decade, and it’s time to reclaim it.
  • Podcasts. I can be super long winded so select journal entries will include audio versions. I’ll read it to you, instead of you reading it yourself! Or you can read along. Whatever you want.  
  • Resources. Any and everything that has helped me so far, I’m sharing. My reading list (and digital copies of the full books themselves, when available), the notes I’ve taken during my therapy sessions, online content that has spoken to me, etc.
  • Vlogs. I’ve kept a private video journal all year, and I’ll be posting those. I said that I’d be sharing my whole journey, raw and unfiltered, and that’s what I’m going to do. I’m still making them, and I’ll share them as I go.
  • Weekly Livestreams. Sometimes we’ll just chat, sometimes I’ll read excerpts of books on this topic that I’ve found helpful, sometimes there will just be mental health check-ins. Make sure you’re comfortable with Discord (it can seem daunting at first, but I promise it’s super easy to use), as that’s where all the community action will happen.
  • Receipts. I’m not one for making baseless claims. Videos, photos, voice memos, screenshots, letters, phone records – I can back up every single thing I say or write. I’ve found this to be necessary when you’re dealing with a pathological liar, because damn can they paint a picture that hides their villainy!

Those of you that have been following @deepfriedhoney for a while know that I’ve never been exactly forthcoming with details about my personal life, so this is very scary for me, especially to decide to do this at a time when I am just a walking talking struggle. Maybe it’s me being a Virgo, but it’s not easy to shine a light on what’s wrong with me for the world to see. But, I trust y’all. So here we go! Thanks for jumping on board this journey with me. Here’s to shining a light on our shared experiences and offering hope to anyone who needs it.

With gratitude and anticipation,


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